Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

July 18, 2011

.. who is the fairest of them all? Are you able to wake up every morning and look at yourself in the mirror? Do you like the image staring back at you? Many of us choose not to look at that mirror – it is easier to get dressed in the dark if you know what I mean.

Mirrors are tough. They show us every defect. We stand there open and vulnerable and see how our patterns play out right in front of us. I always say that you only learn who you are, in relationship to another human being – they are mirrors to us. You learn about yourself when you come face to face with someone who is “mirroring your behavior right back to you.” This can play out in a myriad of ways. But the easiest way to take a long, hard look at yourself “in the mirror” is to watch your patterns of anger and frustration as they arise. Who is it that is annoying you? Why do they constantly get on your nerves? What is it that they do that sets you off? Generally speaking, when we get angry with others (especially over and over again), it is because they are reflecting back to us our own issues that are still unhealed. Simply put, we always dislike in another what we cannot stand about ourselves.

So the next time you feel like lashing out at someone, stop and take note of the qualities that are irritating you and ask yourself when and how you may exhibit some of those same qualities. Once you catch that pattern of behavior, you begin to realize that you are no longer angered by that person. Once you heal those parts of yourself, your relationships with others naturally heal.

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Written by Donnalynn Civello


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