Where there is Loss, There is Gain

June 7, 2011

As in life, everything exists in a state of duality. You cannot have black without white. You cannot have left without right. You cannot have good without bad. Everything in life must exist in a perfect state of equilibrium/balance. Understand that when you experience one emotion or situation, inevitably the opposite will make its way to you in time.

When we look at loss… whatever you think you might have lost – a relationship, a job or a loved one, that loss leaves an undeniably empty space in your jar of life. Many of us would like to play the victim and say, “Oh, whoa is me… why are these things always happening to me?” If we choose to play the victim, we will lower our vibration to that of the victim because of course, you only get what you put out in life. But if we could realize that the empty space we have now inherited is just an opportunity to fill it with a new beginning, then we could see this experience for the gift that it is.

Nothing is ever taken away from you that you cannot handle. And nothing would be taken away from you if there weren’t some way to fill that empty space and bring your life back into a state of perfect balance. The empty space is an opportunity to begin again – to find a new type of relationship, job/career or situation that will re-ignite your passions, interests and mode of self-expressionism.

When you lose, you are not really losing. You actually gain an opportunity to re-invent yourself in new and exciting ways. You are free to redefine your life, on your terms. As Masahide said in 1688, “Barn’s burnt down…. now I can see the moon.” Despite whatever tragedy you have experienced, you have an obligation to yourself to look beyond the devastation of the burnt barn and see the beauty and intrigue of the moon as it continues to shine. Life goes on. And if you allow yourself to open up, it will bring you new opportunities that you could never dream possible. From the loss ALWAYS comes new life.

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Written by Donnalynn Civello


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