When the Burden Gets Too Heavy

December 2, 2013

Sisyphean toil… learn to lighten your load.

Not every issue has direct relevance on your life. Yet as humans, we tend to carry every burden on our shoulders as if it was our own. Maybe we are empathetic, maybe we are sensitive to other’s plights, maybe we are just kind people – whatever the excuse, we do not need to carry others’ issues, struggles or negative behaviors upon our shoulders. Life gets much simpler and easier when we learn to own what is ours and give the rest back.

Your work in life is to get yourself to the “top of the mountain” with as much ease and enjoyment as possible. You cannot get to the top of the mountain with ease if you are carrying bags upon bags of other people’s traumas and opinions and judgments. In order to succeed in your own life, you have only to carry what you need in order to make yourself happy. When you have what you need, you have enough to share with others, but when your bags are full of what isn’t serving you, you take yourself down, exhaust yourself and leave yourself feeling hopeless and filled with despair.

Decide today that you are not going to hold onto anything in life that doesn’t serve you – whether it may be a certain person or other’s opinions of you, or other’s dysfunction with themselves or with their peers, etc… Whatever drama or nonsense is going on around you, learn to let it pass through you. Don’t pack it up and take it up the mountain with you. If the situation doesn’t have a direct bearring on your life in a POSITIVE WAY, learn to not take it on as yours. The work in life is in learning to streamline your baggage, not in carrying everyone else’s up the mountain. Carrying other’s burdens does not make you the superhero, it makes you the fool. Afterall, your carrying their baggage doesn’t help them learn their lessons and by doing so, you have just made life harder for yourself. Who wins here? No one.

Give your back a rest. Give others their own baggage to carry up the mountain. Everyone will get there in their own time and with their own learnings and comfort level. Let the journey to the top begin.


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Written by Donnalynn Civello


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