Anything else is conditional love which is predicated on meeting specific conditions…
Are they educated? check.
Are they the right age? check.
Are they the right body weight? check.
Do they make enough money? check.
Do they have the right social standing? check.
Will they make me look good in public? check.
But what if they didn’t tick these boxes? What then? What if you loved them anyway? Now there’s a dilemma.
But here’s what you need to know…
Conditional love is superficial. Unconditional love is eternal.
Conditional love falls apart when the conditions cease to exist. Unconditional love is free to grow because it’s not predicated on a condition.
Conditional love is choked by it’s own expectations. Unconditional love doesn’t have expectations, but remains open and hopeful.
Conditional love is about “ticking all the boxes.” Unconditional love abandons all requirements.
Conditional love looks to have all its needs met. Unconditional love looks to meet all needs.
Conditional love is selfish, self-centered and unilateral. Unconditional love is selfless and giving.
Conditional love is emotionally immature. Unconditional love is built on maturity and wisdom.
Conditional love is rigid and doesn’t like to take risks. Unconditional love is flexible and lives outside its comfort zone.
Conditional love suffocates under self-imposed rules. Unconditional love is freeing and knows no boundaries.
Conditional love is what you think you want. Unconditional love is what you never knew you wanted.
Unconditional love sneaks up on you — it shows up through a back door while you are at the front door waiting for something else.
Unconditional love is what was standing in front of you all along while you were busy ticking all your boxes and evaluating all your options.
Unconditional love is usually “the one that got away” while you were busy searching out the perfect conditions for it.
Unconditional love loves unconditionally. Anything else just doesn’t cut it. Ask yourself — how do you love?
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