Love What You Have

August 15, 2011

… let go of what you don’t.

It’s a very simple precept. Why do we not allow ourselves to feel happy and satisfied with what it is we have in life. We always want for even more. It’s almost as if for our very happiness, we need that new job, new promotion, new apartment, new relationship, etc… We yearn for it, we feel we deserve it, we feel deprived that we have to go without it. It is a vicious cycle of emotional and material need that we impose upon our psyches.

Just to clarify one thing… it is not the lack of something/someone that is causing your unhappiness but the mental affliction of thinking you need to have something outside of yourself to make you happy. 

Why are you not completely happy now? What are you waiting for that you think is going to make you happy? I promise you that when you find what it is you think you need to make you happy, you will still feel a nagging gap of something missing. That something missing is your own contentedness and peace of mind. Without that, you will never find true happiness.

As Dan Millman says in the “Way of the Peaceful Warrior,” you have to learn to be happy without a reason in the world. Once you can learn to be happy with what you actually do have and not need it to be anything else, then everything else will come to you. Life is energy and energy vibrates in frequency. When you are truly happy, you send out a positive vibration which has a ripple effect and attracts like minded people and situations. Happiness breeds happiness. When you sit around and lament NOT having what you think you desire, it only succeeds in magnetically attracting more unsatisfactory conditions.

My dad used to say this to me when I was younger, “Always make the best out of any situation and you will always be happy.” It is important to see the beauty in what you already have, learn to appreciate it and learn to give gratitude for it so that the beauty that you currently have can expand and become ever more abundant. That is the secret to finding true happiness.

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Written by Donnalynn Civello

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