Learn To See Your Patterns

March 3, 2014

images-3… otherwise you will repeat them.

We all have patterns, we are just not acutely aware of them. In fact, we spend our lifetimes going through the same patterns over and over again. It’s called sleepwalking our way through our lives. We keep hitting our head on the walls over and over again wondering “why things like this keep happening to us?” We feel victimized by the pattern instead of empowered and awakened to make necessary change.

What is a pattern you might ask? Any obstacle, hardship or adverse encounter that continually shows up in our lives signifies a pattern. Clearly the pattern continues in our lives until it’s addressed. Our patterns show up everywhere in our lives – at work, at home, in our relationships with lovers, colleagues, family, friends and strangers. Patterns are highlighted over and over in our lives until we work through them. If we do not catch the pattern, it will undoubtedly repeat again, but with a new situation and a new cast of characters.

Your work is to wake up to the patterns, catch them and heal them so that you can be freed of them. Once you wake up and apply a certain degree of conscious awareness to your life, your life changes. Patterns are meant to be addressed and worked through, not experienced over and over again.

The next time you find yourself in a tough spot, stop and ask yourself if there is a pattern here that you are not seeing. Has something similar happened before? Once you catch the pattern, you can choose to show up differently and make a new decision that will change your outcome. As long as you stay stuck repeating negative patterns of behavior, you keep yourself back in life. Patterns keep you stuck. Healing the patterns set you free. Where do you want to be?


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Written by Donnalynn Civello

  • keanemrk, March 3, 2014 Reply

    Reblogged this on OccPsyched and commented:
    There are many sub-surface patterns that operate across work and various areas of our lives. While the unit of analysis may seem small, the cumulative effects are not. This topic is a good catalyst for discussion, but even better as a means to identify opportunities for change.

    • dlcivello, March 4, 2014 Reply

      Thank you for your feedback, OCCPsyched. I agree. For me, it comes down to consciousness. Most people just aren't aware of their patterns, they prefer to play the victim and wonder why it keeps happening TO THEM, not that maybe it is happening FOR THEM TO LEARN. Kind regards, donnalynn

      • keanemrk, March 4, 2014 Reply

        Thank you, the name is Mark. You have presented a perspective that I have thought about for some time now. To the conscious mind, during the day we believe that we are always switched on. However, if we look at the micro-level, we do not constantly think, feel or act. So what are we doing when we are not doing this? While we may have routine and habit, we also don't have that. Looking at the majority of the day, or an accurately reflected 24hr study at the micro-level, what would we be doing? Fascinating area which also has links with the workplace. I really like your focus on learning from repeated patterns too. Huge thanks for coming back to me as the author!

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