We think just because it’s behind us that we’re done with our past. But the past doesn’t work that way. The past is only in our past if we have learned what we needed to learn from it and subsequently let it go.
How do you know if you have let it go? You are no longer attached to it.
So if it’s in your past, but you’re still angry about it, you’re still attached to it.
If it’s in your past, but you’re still upset about it, you’re still attached to it.
If it’s in your past, but you’re still hurting over it, you’re still attached to it.
If after all this time, you’re still having a strong emotional response to that person or event, then clearly you are still attached to it and therefore NOT finished with it. For better or worse, it’s very much still alive in your mind and heart.
You cannot run from your past. Unfortunately if you do not deal with it, it will always come back. Your past has a funny way of finding you when it is time to deal with something you’ve buried. So when your past comes back to you, it’s NEVER an unfortunate mishap, it’s the universe’s way of providing you with another opportunity for closure. Take it.
Just because a chapter of your life closes, doesn’t mean you are finished with it. Learn to not only close it, but find the closure in it.