Divine Love

February 8, 2010


by Veronica A. Shoffstall

It is only after awhile that you learn
the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn that love doesn’t mean possession
and company doesn’t mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
and presents aren’t promises and you begin to accept
your defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of an adult not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build your roads today
because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans
and futures have ways of falling down in mid-flight.
After awhile you learn that even sunshine
burns if you get too much so you plant your
own garden and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
that you really are strong
and you really do have worth.

In honor of Valentine’s Day I wanted to share this very beautiful piece with you. It is beautiful on so many levels but especially because it teaches us that Love is not something that is meant to complete us. We are already perfect and complete in ourselves. True love is selfless and aware. True love gives of itself unconditionally. What we learn through this piece is that in order to give love unconditionally, one must first learn to love themselves. It is only through your love of the self that true love can be shared between two people. When we strive to make ourselves beautiful and happy inside that beautiful light shines through and projects out to the world around us attracting more of the same. Happy Valentines Day!

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Written by Donnalynn Civello

  • AP, January 12, 2011 Reply

    This is an absolutely beautiful poem. I really enjoyed reading your blog. Thanks for sharing such beautiful wisdom and words.

  • Lisa Cacace, March 1, 2011 Reply

    Beautiful. That's what comes to mind. I love your insights.

    Thank you.

  • zach, October 16, 2013 Reply

    you help me help my self ;). You are not a master monk or pope who believes that there is a level of enlighten and that you need to be taught by a master only to achieve happiness and bliss but a true human soul that understand we are who we are and we all have our own path that is meant to be carved. Enjoy your life as will I have a great ride :)

    • dlcivello, October 16, 2013 Reply

      I am so glad it helps you, Zach. My goal is to help everyone to see that enlightenment is possible in this lifetime by understanding ourselves and our journey on earth. It does not have to be delivered through any system of dogma (religious/spiritual beliefs). It is right there for those who are willing to see. Always, xo donnalynn

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