How “healthy” are you?
Are you happy, successful and stable within yourself?
Can you be alone and still be happy?
Do you need something from someone else to feel contented and secure?
Ask yourself these crucial questions and be honest with yourself. Healthy relationships with others only happen when we have a healthy relationship with ourselves first.
It’s no one’s job to make you happy. It’s yours.
It’s no one’s job to provide emotional security for you. It’s yours.
It’s no one’s job to help you feel confident in your skin. It’s yours.
It’s no one’s job to make you feel beautiful. It’s yours.
It’s no one’s job to solve your problems. It’s yours.
It’s no one’s job to help you feel safe in a relationship. It’s yours.
If you are relying on another person to be any of these things for you, you are “needing from them” NOT “loving them.” Need is need. It is NEVER love.
But once you have a good handle on all the above within YOURSELF, you are able to truly share yourself with another human being in a healthy loving relationship. But all too often we get into relationships where we expect that another person will somehow “make it better” for us. That they will somehow be the “magic bullet” we are missing in our lives. And that they will somehow bring a quality to our lives that we do not already have for ourselves. This is NEVER the case. And then we become disillusioned and discouraged that that person has somehow failed us – but in reality, it was never their job to be that something for us. It was our job all along.
Healthy relationships require healthy people to make them work. Do the work on yourself and learn how to be healthy and happy within yourself, by yourself. Then you will have all the tools necessary to maintain a truly healthy relationship.
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