Growing Together, Growing Apart

December 15, 2014

th… which do you prefer?

It’s human nature to continue to grow throughout your lifetime.

And when we are in a relationship with someone, we have a choice, we can either grow with them or we can grow apart from them, but we will continue to grow regardless. It is the way the universe works.

The question remains, how do you want to grow in your relationship?

The hope is that the relationship you choose supports your growth and the direction you want to move into in your life. But that isn’t always the case. Sometimes we choose partners for other reasons only to find out after a period of time that we no longer have anything in common and our desires/passions have waned.

That doesn’t mean that someone has to be exactly like you but it does mean that they have to be able to push you/challenge you in new ways to grow and expand your mind. Mutual respect and admiration will keep the two of you learning about each other and interested in each other’s journey. If you are on different paths and you are NOT interested in each other’s journey, nor is there any shared journey, it will NEVER last. Clearly you are growing apart.

Having said that, growing together isn’t necessarily easy. Don’t look for the easy way out. Easy is just that, EASY. It doesn’t mean better. And easy will more often than not turn into boring very quickly.

A better relationship is generally a bit more challenging. A better relationship should inspire you but at the same time should challenge you to pick it up a bit. It keeps you on your toes and keeps you growing and evolving. This dynamism will never tire and never get boring.

In any relationship it is important to know who you are. Know what’s important to you and pick relationships that can support and nurture you on that journey.

Don’t kid yourself – you will grow regardless so it’s best to be conscious of the tide you are riding before you find yourself in a place you didn’t mean to get to. Do you want to grow together or grow apart? The choice is always yours. Choose wisely.

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Written by Donnalynn Civello


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