Forcing Things to Happen

September 16, 2013

images… DOESN’T make them happen for you.

Learning to relax into your life does.

We always think we have all the answers, but in reality, we seldom do. Learn to see the patterns. Learn to see when something is not working for you and be able to walk away from it.

Life is a balance between grace and effort. You need to put forth the effort to achieve anything in life, but you also need to be able to abandon efforts when the results continually prove undesirable. Learning to let go of the outcome with a sense of ease and grace is one of our greatest tools to achieving the life of our dreams.

Pushing and pushing doesn’t make you stronger, it weakens the very fabric you are trying to uphold. The answer is NEVER in forcing things to be a certain way, the answer is in learning to accept that there may be a different way that you have not thought about. True strength is not found in force, but in the ability to step back and allow. Learning to allow life to happen instead of just forcing your agenda on it will ensure that you receive the best outcome for your highest good.

Don’t force an issue. If it isn’t working for you, back off and look at it from another perspective. Are you more interested in being right or doing the right thing? If your ego cannot help you find your way, the ability to step back and change perspective will.

You can use your free-will to force an outcome for yourself or you can step back and allow fate to bring you to exactly where you need to be. Which one do you think will make you most happy? Remember, we don’t always know what is right for us. Stepping back can assure us of the opportunity to get a clear perspective. Stop forcing things to happen and start enjoying the journey of your life. You might be pleasantly surprised.


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Written by Donnalynn Civello


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