Comparisons Don’t Feed the Soul

March 12, 2012

…. yet we do it anyway. In life it only matters who YOU are and what YOU are doing with your life. It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. When we get caught up in comparing ourselves to others, we dilute the dynamic energy of the self and divert it into negative states such as jealousy, envy and resentment. Those states of behavior are very deconstructive and counterproductive. They keep you small, stuck and spiraling in the wrong direction. Envying someone for what they have keeps you locked in a state of “wanting and lack,” which is fear based. When you focus on the Self and your dreams, aspirations and hopes (love based), you open yourself up to the many opportunities around you. Things flow easily to you when you focus on the Self whereas when you are focused on what others have, you are locked in a state of lack, and because of that, you keep the very things that you seek far from you.  Time spent looking outside of ourselves for our own worth is wasted. Comparisons do not feed the soul. They do not feed the energy of where it is you want to be in your life. They do the exact opposite – they throw you backwards and lock you into a “wanting” pattern that is hard to get out of. Already believe you have everything that you want and need. Visualize yourself as having the life you want and borrow a tiny bit from that vision every day to make it a reality. We do not get what we want in life by wishing someone else did not have it. We only get it by believing that we, ourselves have the ability to create it for ourselves. Use the people around you as inspiration for you to have the same. Do not begrudge them, bless them and say to yourself, “I admire their lifestyle. I will have that as well” and then watch the doors begin to open. Learn to reframe the situation – turn your resentment into inspiration; it is the key to having the life you want.

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Written by Donnalynn Civello


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